by Jesse
(USA, CA)
(Visitor's story):
My mother and I have dealt with a lot in both our lives. My father (according to my mother) was an abusive and terrible man, while to me he was the normal, fun, dad. My mom hates him with a passion, and whenever I even mention him she gets mad. He even compares him to me and calls me abusive.
She has currently not allowed me to see my boyfriend (sadly, I still live with her as I am under the age of 18) because he reminds her of my father. Me and my therapist even believe that she needs therapy and should see a doctor that specializes on trauma.
My mother lies about him, saying that he's rude, aggressive, and just straight out abusive. This is not true, not at all. He's a very loving person towards me, and all of his friends, my friends, my little cousin, and even my little brother.
However, my mom has dealt with an argument with him. This is because they got in an argument because she told him that he was not allowed to date me. He asked why, and she wouldn't give him an answer. They kept arguing until the word "idiot" slipped out. Then, out of a fit of rage she called the cops, calling him abusive, violent, rude, and horrible. She even claimed that he "Violently grabbed me in a possessive manner" and that he needed to be stop.
The police officer did nothing much to help, other than agree with my mother. Now she has requested a restraining order that we must go to court for because she finds him "dangerous". Yet again, he's never hit me, called me names, isolated me, etc. In fact we've been in a very happy 8 month relationship. And we've known each other for about a year and a half.
I'm unsure of what to do, to be honest. MY mother is very hard to deal with, as she gets mad at me for not being the most optimistic of people, and yells at me for feeling sad, mad, anything that's not happy. She always pressures me to be kind, or at least civil by saying, "I got you out of foster care! I do everything for you!".
I am also not allowed at anybody ones house, I may not call anyone (unless my phone is set to "speaker"). I may not talk to, or see my boyfriend, ever. I cannot use my tablet, go outside by myself, go to sleepovers, go to to parties, or even football games. I am constantly blamed for anything (such as chores) that have not been done.
However, yes, I'm a little rebel and send him letters (via my mailbox) and that's are only way of communication...
I hope somebody is helped, and can relate.
Thank you.
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